What makes us so different? Why some of us have great careers, great businesses, great relationships and others have lousy careers, lousy or no businesses and lousy relationships? Why aren’t all the children brilliant? Why aren’t we all top performers? Why aren’t we all very good at something?

There are two important factors which help us become brilliant, top performers, very good at something, great business men: hard work and mindset. Hard work is a very important ingredient for that. And only hard work will take you there. But hard work is not enough. It helps you become very good, but not top performer. I’ve met people who were very good at something but they worked very hard, harder then the rest in order to be the best. And I’ve also met people who were not working hard but were very good at something because they really liked what they did. By combining these two ingredients we get the right recipe.

These two factors can be analyzed separately. Let’s consider the first one: working hard. This is something that most of us can do, if we’re really determined and if we really want to get somewhere, we can work hard and we don’t really depend on anyone else. We just have to set some clear goals, make a clear plan and then stick to it.

On the other hand, it’s not really easy to get in the right mindset. The mindset is an effect of motivation but it’s roots are more complex. I think this depends a lot on our education, it depends on how we were grown and taught starting from childhood.

Brilliant children and average children

All children are smart. There’s no stupid or average children. What makes the difference between a smart child and an average one is self confidence. We all believe in our own powers and potential when we’re little. Remember childhood, there was nothing impossible back in those days. We knew that we could change the world.
But as we grow up, we start loosing our self confidence. We start loosing the thought that we can do anything we want. We stop believing in our potential. Our parents are very important at teaching us self confidence; and also at loosing it. They should teach us that we can do anything we want, they should make us believe that there’s nothing impossible. Children should be taught to focus on the positive aspects of any situation (hey, a bad grade is not the end of the world) and also they should be encouraged to focus on doing what they like. Children should be helped finding their own path and having the right support will make them have faith in their own potential. Believing in your self is the right mindset for getting wherever we want and we should help our children gain (or not loose) self-confidence as they grow up.

Being good or being bad at something

When you like what you do and if you are sure that you can do it, there’s a good chance you can be really good at that; and also there’s a good chance that you’ll get where you want. Liking what you do is the right mindset for doing it right.

If you don’t like what you do, if you don’t feel motivated enough, it’s most probable that you’ll never have the right mindset and you’ll never be good at that. Change is the hardest thing to handle. Most of us continue to do jobs and tasks we don’t like just because we’re used to it. But instead of continuing being bad at something, why not start doing something we like and something we’re good at. Enjoying what you do creates the right mindset for being very good at that.

Successful businessmen

Not all of us can be business men. Some of us enjoy having a job, we enjoy having a fixed schedule, we enjoy focusing only on something like technical stuff and not worrying about sales, marketing, branding, business meetings and so on. If you like what you do and are good at that then nothing should stop you. But if you have a job and you wish having you own business, stop asking your self if you’re able or not to do it. And stop worrying about failure.

All successful business men have had at least as many failures as successes. What made them successful is their determination to succeed. It’s their mindset and their belief that nothing stands between them and their success. All we have to do is transform our failures in useful experiences and learn from them and apply what we learn. If we follow this simple guideline, we’ll succeed eventually: we might succeed from the first attempt, we might succeed from the 10th attempt or from the 100th attempt. But if we keep trying we’ll get where we want.

When having the right mindset we take every failure as a lesson and then we move on.